I don’t have a great relationship with my dad. He’s not ACTUALLY my dad, when I was six he married my mom so really he is my step-dad but since I was so young and never actually knew my real dad, I just called him dad (PS they have since divorced and my mom remarried).
I won’t get into why we’re not close because it is insanely personal, but just know that our relationship is always a “go through the motions” kinda thing.
About two weeks ago he asked if him and my step-brother could come up for a Cubs game this weekend. A pretty reasonable request, but this would have been the first weekend in two months that I didn’t have a single set plan for the entire weekend. The weekend would have been mine to tackle as I saw fit.
Once again, I couldn’t say no. It’s my dad and he has never visited and there isn’t another weekend available until October 25 and it’s Chicago in the summer and isn’t that what summer is for? So I had to say yes, regardless of anything I was looking forward to (helping bff with wedding stuff, Boulevard Fest, laundry, reading, sleep, seeing my boyfriend for an entire fucking weekend [hasn’t happened in over a month]).
He is the complete opposite of my mom - he has no plans. It’s like “oh we’ll show up sometime Saturday and leave sometime Sunday and don’t really care what we do in between.” It’s so inconsiderate of my time and it stresses me out.
Also add that he has no money. I don’t care if a person has money or not, but don’t suggest a weekend trip to Chicago if you don’t have money to spend. BEY KNOWS I don’t have the money to treat anyone to dinners or tickets or anything.
So what will we do all weekend? Roam around aimlessly eating frozen pizza? Can’t you do that in the Quad Cities? I know there is some stuff do that’s free: Millennium Park/Lakefront/Street Fests (of course the one weekend they visit is the one weekend there isn’t a street fest near my hood). But you can only do that for so long so I guess we’ll just see.