Anonymous said: *don't
I think this was in response to my hosting strangers at my house and I’m pretty sure it’s not Toast because we had a separate ~conversation about it.
I can’t say no. My mom made sure of that, which pisses me off. She also completely brushes off my stress and anxiety which only pisses me off more.
She frames it as “it’ll be so fun and exciting and they’re going to pay you so you’re just basically going to go for free! You’ll just be buying beers left and right! Um, no. I’ll be paying off debt and you know…bills. The bills that will be paying for the extra gas and electric that will be used with FIVE EXTRA PEOPLE.
So here is the scenario: my mom and brother were already coming to stay with me. Cool, just the three of us, family, don’t have to clean, plenty of space. THEN she calls me and tells me these people she knows’ plans to stay somewhere else fell through because that person didn’t tell her mom she was going and her mom planned a surprise party for her now she can’t go. So of course I have to let them stay with me because a hotel or airbnb would be insanely expensive.
When I ask her how many people, she says 5. I say oh okay just three more. No…five MORE…so including me…EIGHT FUCKING PEOPLE. I HAVE A ONE BEDROOM APARTMENT. She’s all it’s fine these are my friend’s and their daughters (18-20) so they won’t even be partying or anything. OH OKAY SURE RIGHT CUZ NOTHING ELSE COULD GO WRONG.
So I’m like look, 8 people on 1 bathroom/shower schedule…uh…and space for all the beds plus their crap…not to mention my cat…wtf. SHE KEEPS BRUSHING IT ASIDE. She even went to far as to suggest I stay with Alex. YEAH THAT WILL MAKE ME FEEL BETTER, HAVING STRANGERS AT MY HOUSE WHEN I’M NOT THERE. Fuck man. So I tell her that everyone is on my schedule, no one can leave after me or get back to my apartment before me, I’m not giving anyone keys or leaving anything late/early to accommodate.
A part of me thinks this was her plan all along and she waited until the last minute because she knew I couldn’t say no then, but before I would protest. My mom is great most of the time, but she is also a manipulative person, so I wouldn’t put it past her.
My friends advice was to just stay drunk the whole weekend, which according to my mom shouldn’t be a problem.